FAR from normal

I've been avoiding this particular post only because I am trying to figure out a way to write in as positive a manner as possible, while staying true to my realistic approach to life.

I am FAR from normal. Yes, I know that normal is relative and honestly, normal can be boring for many people. I'm FAR from normal because right now I am filled with Fear, Anticipation and dreading the Risk of what I'm about to do to achieve a sense of normality. Normal in the sense that I want to be able to open my front door when someone knocks without first having to cover myself up like a mummy and literally hide behind the door when I open it. Normal in the sense that I would like to work Monday to Friday without a second thought and definitely without the pain and fatigue that results from doing so. Normal in the sense that intimacy with your spouse isn't a complex series of avoidance of touching while all you want to do is hold each other. Normal, normal, normal.......

In a few days time I will be going under anaesthetic for a surgical procedure called Transphenoidal Endoscopic Skull Base Surgery.  

In this procedure, the skull base surgeon (an ENT who has specialised in skull base surgery) and the neurosurgeon will go into my nasal pasages and cut through to the base of my skull. Using a GPS navigation system, they will carefully work on removing the tumor piece by piece over a minimum of 6-8 hours which has slowly been taking over my skull base and is thought to be the reason for my TN and other cranial nerve pain. The tumor is full of blood vessels and located adjacent to my brainstem and carotid artery, not to mention the other nerves. So, according to the doctor, they will literally have to move a maximum of a millimeter at a time and remove a piece of tissue, stop the bleeding, and then move on and repeat.  This particular surgical technique boasts impressive recovery times and minimal risks when used for removal of pituitary tumors. Obviously, mine is not a pituitary tumor, or in fact, one which any of these surgeons have removed before. I guess there always has to be a first time for everything.

I have a 50% (optimistically) chance that it will work in terms of helping with my pain. There is also the risk of complications. Honestly though, I am accepting this risk with the support of my family because there really is no other option. 

This got me thinking, for all the TN warriors out there who consent to surgery, we are all plagued by the fear, anticipate the potential relief and acknowledge the risks involved. Brain surgery is not something to laugh at, as with any surgery. However, when you are in this much pain, you honestly would pay a guy on the street corner to cut off your face with a chainsaw in the midst of a severe attack. I for one am grateful that technology has advanced to allow for this endoscopic surgical technique, as, in the past, skull base surgery would require literally removing a part of my face and lifting the brain up in order to get to where this particular bony tumor now sits.

Funny how TN patients can talk about brain surgery as if it is a trip to the dentist and vice versa. Strange how many around us do not realise the magnitude of the actual decision to do this and the utter devastation we feel when we are denied surgery by so many doctors. 

I don't know if it will work. I don't know if this is the last time I'll go under the knife, though I know that if it doesn't result in any relief, I will most probably be willing to go for any other procedure available. And that, my dear friends, is how desperate this disease can make you. How absolutely ridiculous it can sound to us to hear someone say that we should learn to make the best of it for the rest of our lives and NOT go for risky surgery. 

An so, I sign off today while reminding every single one of my fellow warriors.....Do Not take no for an answer. Keep searching for a doctor or team of professionals who realise the importance of achieving a sense of normality, a team who will walk down the path with you to the point where you are happy to be able to say you have done everything possible to deal with the hell TN has put you through. It may be surgery, it may not be. Whatever the case, keep fighting until the Elephant on your face becomes an addendum to your story and not the introduction and conclusion.





There's an elephant on my face by Lianne Keiller is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 International License. Subscribe in a reader