I have also become almost completely riddled with guilt this past month. Not the guilt that I spoke of a while back "May the guilt be with you" in another post, that guilt that prevents you from giving in to the temptation to live up to the "suicide disease" nickname. No, this guilt is about me feeling that I'm always complaining, that I've completely destroyed so many good relationships and family activities because others have to consider my ability to function through the pain. This guilt is one where I almost feel like I would rather just keep my head down, be quiet and try not to make everyone miserable because I am in pain.
It is something I am really struggling with, especially after surgery. I have relief in the 2nd branch of the nerve, and it is wonderful. I am grateful for it. BUT. I still have the same pain I had before, only now it almost feels more amplified in the the 3rd branch of the nerve and in the ear. So yes, my silence has been a difficult one, and I suspect, one I will struggle to push past for a while.
This has also brought me to the title for todays' post. It is October 5, 2015, the 3rd international TN Awareness day and my Facebook timeline is almost completely teal!!! Granted, it is because most of my timeline is full of posts from fellow TN warriors, from TN support groups, etc. But there is also the odd post and shared post from personal friends and family, and this warms my heart. The awareness day this year is dedicated to the children who have to live with TN, contrary to what most of the literature says is the case. Children with TN, who are not believed, because they do not fit the criteria for TN patients with regard to age. The support from all the online posts and buildings lighting up teal in the US, Australia, UK and Canada are awesome, but I want to make special mention of those who support me.
I want to thank my family, immediate and extended, for believing me and supporting me with calls, hugs and lots and lots of understanding. I want to thank the friends, the true friends, who have not decided I am too high maintenance and still invite me over or come visit or call to chat. I want to thank colleagues and management who have taken the time to try to understand more about TN and who have provided me with the opportunity to work from home on a more regular basis so that I can function at a better level than when I was expected to work in the office every day. I want to thank my TN family, the ones who I can literally call on day or night when it all gets too much. I cannot and would not want to go on without all this support.
Sadly, there are many of the TN warriors out there who have NO support. Who have lost their spouse/partner because they can't handle the all-encompassing way this pain affects us; who have had their children pull away from them; who spend all day alone at home without a single person wondering how they are; who are physically, financially and emotionally abused by so-called loved ones.
My awareness day post is a plea. A plea for those who know someone with TN to support them. My awareness day post is a heartfelt thank you. A thank you that cannot be fully expressed for those who have shown support for me and many others.
My goal is to work towards an awareness day next year where more public awareness in South Africa is a reality, but for now, I will continue to #TurnTheWorldTeal, one post at a time.
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It is something I am really struggling with, especially after surgery. I have relief in the 2nd branch of the nerve, and it is wonderful. I am grateful for it. BUT. I still have the same pain I had before, only now it almost feels more amplified in the the 3rd branch of the nerve and in the ear. So yes, my silence has been a difficult one, and I suspect, one I will struggle to push past for a while.
This has also brought me to the title for todays' post. It is October 5, 2015, the 3rd international TN Awareness day and my Facebook timeline is almost completely teal!!! Granted, it is because most of my timeline is full of posts from fellow TN warriors, from TN support groups, etc. But there is also the odd post and shared post from personal friends and family, and this warms my heart. The awareness day this year is dedicated to the children who have to live with TN, contrary to what most of the literature says is the case. Children with TN, who are not believed, because they do not fit the criteria for TN patients with regard to age. The support from all the online posts and buildings lighting up teal in the US, Australia, UK and Canada are awesome, but I want to make special mention of those who support me.
I want to thank my family, immediate and extended, for believing me and supporting me with calls, hugs and lots and lots of understanding. I want to thank the friends, the true friends, who have not decided I am too high maintenance and still invite me over or come visit or call to chat. I want to thank colleagues and management who have taken the time to try to understand more about TN and who have provided me with the opportunity to work from home on a more regular basis so that I can function at a better level than when I was expected to work in the office every day. I want to thank my TN family, the ones who I can literally call on day or night when it all gets too much. I cannot and would not want to go on without all this support.
Sadly, there are many of the TN warriors out there who have NO support. Who have lost their spouse/partner because they can't handle the all-encompassing way this pain affects us; who have had their children pull away from them; who spend all day alone at home without a single person wondering how they are; who are physically, financially and emotionally abused by so-called loved ones.
My awareness day post is a plea. A plea for those who know someone with TN to support them. My awareness day post is a heartfelt thank you. A thank you that cannot be fully expressed for those who have shown support for me and many others.
My goal is to work towards an awareness day next year where more public awareness in South Africa is a reality, but for now, I will continue to #TurnTheWorldTeal, one post at a time.
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Gosh, Lianne, I knew you were booked off sick, but I never realised what you were going through.
ReplyDeleteHI Rose, I think this is one of the difficulties that people with chronic pain issues and complex diagnoses face often. We often don't look particularly I'll, and even if we do, most people aren't aware of what the main issue is or how to respond if they do. I have been more vocal than most about my journey with TN over the past year and hope that one day it will make a difference for others.
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